THE GOD CENTERED HUSBAND

A Weekly Email to Help You Love God and Your Wife
By Doug Hanna

🧠 WISE WORDS

💥 WHAT IS A GOD CENTERED HUSBAND?

A God Centered Husband must be a leader who serves. Jesus’ work is our example of true humility, laying down our lives for the good of others. Jesus’ work is also the reason we can be humble; fully accepted in Christ, we have nothing to prove and everything to give.

Are you a God Centered Husband? When are you slow to lay down your preferences?

🛠️ ONE QUICK TIP FOR MARRIAGE

How to handle a disagreement about parenting

• Get ALONE — Don’t try to have this conversation with an audience/in front of the kids. (This means, you may not get to hash it out immediately — which is a good thing, since we rarely HAVE to hash it out immediately.)

• Get ALIGNED — Discuss your short-term and long-term goals for your kids and how that should inform how we approach this situation.

• ACTUALLY Listen — Don’t formulate a response to your wife’s perspective until you have fully heard it and articulated it back to her.

• ACTUALLY Lead — Make a decision and ask your family to stick with it. (This may not be what you thought was right initially!)

📕 ONE VERSE + ONE SENTENCE

“Hypocrite! First take the beam of wood out of your eye, and then you will see clearly to take the splinter out of your brother’s eye.” (Matthew 7:5)

Be slow to criticize others. Believe it or not, you still have planks in your eye that need to be addressed.

📚 RESOURCE HIGHLIGHT

Are you completely missing the point of sex?

One survey of 22,000 Christian wives indicated that 95% of husbands say they reached a climax in most sexual encounters with their wives while only 48% of women said they reached a climax most of the time.

In other words — in many Christian marriages, spouses (especially men) are failing to serve one another sexually. Sex is meant to be unifying and mutually pleasurable, but far too often it’s one-sided and selfish.

I think the reason this happens is because we’re really confused about what sex is and how it’s supposed to function in our marriages. Men, if you want to see your sexual relationship thrive, you need to put your wife’s needs first.

My book, Sex and Self-Forgetfulness, is available for pre-order now. If you want to strengthen your marriage, deepen your intimacy with your wife, and make sex better than ever (for BOTH of you!), I hope you’ll pre-order a copy today.

Pre-Order Sex and Self-Forgetfulness:

• Amazon

• ChristianBook

• New Growth Press

💬 A CONVERSATION STARTER

Ask this question and listen to what your wife has to say:

• What advice would you (wife) give to an engaged couple?

🔥 PRAYER FIRESTARTER

Prayer life feeling cold? Light it up again with this prompt:

• God, I need you to show up or...

❤️ REMINDER: JESUS LOVES HIS BRIDE

Marriage is a picture of Christ’s relationship and his bride, the church. When we seek to grow as husbands, it can be easy to feel discouraged that we have failed to “love our wives as Christ loved the church” while forgetting that we are the bride whom Christ has loved.

“Husbands, in the same way, live with your wives in an understanding way, as with a weaker partner….” (1 Peter 3:7)

In your union with Christ, you are the weaker partner. But “while we were still weak, at the right time Christ died for the ungodly” (Romans 5:6, ESV). Your weakness does not disqualify you from Jesus.